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Taking
Care of Parents Who Didn't Take Care of You: Making
Peace With Aging Parents -- This
is a guide to taking care of difficult parents, parents
who were themselves not very good at parenting. Sympathetic
and sensible, it suggests ways to navigate the minefields
of aging parents and family dysfunctions and shows
how to create new, emotionally healthy roles among
the old family scripts. The book illustrates its many
guidelines and suggestions with stories from others
who have shared the same, difficult journey. Readers
will discover that it is possible to come to terms
with the dysfunctions in their families of origin and
find healing in the process. Dysfunctional or not,
our parents are going to be around a lot longer than
any other generation before them, and we will be faced
with managing their care. Taking Care of Parents Who
Didn't Take Care of You offers readers compassionate
and practical guidance to facing the psychological
and emotional issues that arise when caring for aging
parents. The result is a powerful and timely book that
moves readers beyond anger, regret and grief in order
to build healthy new family dynamics based on decency
and mercy.
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Watch for new True Crime Books and DVDs as they are published!
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"Every year an
estimated 2.1 million older Americans are victims of physical,
psychological, or other forms of abuse and neglect. For every
case of elder abuse and neglect reported to authorities, experts
estimate that there may be as many as 5 cases not reported.
Research suggests elders who have been abused tend to die earlier
than those who are not abused, even in the absence of chronic
conditions or life threatening disease." Elder
Abuse and Neglect: In Search of Solutions
American's
over the age of 50 years represent 30% of our population, 12%
of our murder victims and 7% of other serious and violent crime
victims.
90% of elder
abuse and neglect incidents are by known perpetrators, usually
family members, 2/3rds are adult children or spouses. 42% of murder
victims over 60 were killed by their own offspring. Spouses were
the perpetrators in 24% of family murders of persons over 60.
The eldest
of our seniors, 80 years and older, are abused and neglected
at 2 - 3 times the proportion of all other senior citizens. -- Bureau
of Justice Statistics
In most
states "mandatory reporters of elder abuse" are required by law
to report suspected cases of elder maltreatment. Nearly 70 percent
of Adult Protective Service agencies' annual caseloads involve
elder abuse.
21.6% of
all domestic elder abuse reports came from physicians or health
care professionals 9.4% from service providers, 14.9% are family
members. They types of abuses and their percentage of frequency
are below.
Neglect
58.5%
Physical abuse 15.7%
Financial exploitation 12.3%
Emotional abuse 7.3%
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Sexual
abuse .04%
All other types 5.1%
Unknown .06%
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National
Center on Elder Abuse, 1994 The National Elder Abuse Incidence
Study: Final Report Washington, DC: Administration for Children
and Families & Administration on Aging, US Department of Health
and Human Services
More than 91%
of nursing homes lack adequate staff to properly care for patients.
The Health and Human Services Department report found patients
in understaffed nursing homes were more likely to suffer from
a variety of problems, such as bed sores, malnutrition, weight
loss, dehydration, pneumonia, and serious blood born infections.
It's a serious concern that will only increase with time, given
that the population of people aged 85 or older is expected
to double to 8.9 million by the year 2030.
Elder
Abuse and Neglect - Overviews, definitions and insights
into the increasingly common problem of elder abuse.
Resources,
Organizations and Government Agencies
Regional
Information
Bruce
Lemoine's family was told he would be cared for at a Manorcare,
but he died from exposure after he was left outside, strapped
in his wheelchair in near 100-degree heat.
Nadine
Howden, 68, a bedridden, diabetic woman died of gangrene in her
filth-filled home might be a victim
of homicide by abuse. She was found dead in her bed by a
police officer last month. She was lying in her own feces, and
her foot was infested with maggots even prior to her death. Detectives
are looking at charging Howden's 36-year-old son, who was her
caretaker. Her developmentally disabled daughter appears to be
living there alone, now.
No
Justice for "Throwaway" People -- When state-paid caregivers
commit crimes against their patients, they often go scot-free.
1 out of
10 Washington
state nursing homes was penalized in 1999 for poor care of
residents. Nearly 2 in 10 homes are in such dire financial shape
that they've filed bankruptcy or closed their doors. Turnover
rates for nursing home aides now top 100 percent a year.
Sante Kimes,
65, and her son, Kenneth, 24, planned to steal 82-year-old Irene
Silverman’s $10 million Manhattan townhouse. When the widow when
she got in their way, they killed her. They were convicted of
murder, criminal possession of a weapon, conspiracy, forgery,
robbery, burglary, grand larceny and eavesdropping, sentenced
to more than a century each behind bars. Sante has a rap sheet
that going back 4 decades. From Rikers Island in New York, exclusive
one-on-one interviews with Sante and her son, Kenneth.
Ice
Box Murders - Houston, Texas - Father's
Day, June 20, 1965, was a day of celebration for many residents
of the Hyde Park Addition in Houston, Texas. An older neighborhood,
dating back to the 1920's, it wasn't a likely location for
Houston's most grisly double homicide. But on that date, two
elderly residents of 1815 Driscoll Street, Fred C. Rogers 81,
and his wife, Edwina H. Rogers 72, were murdered. Three nights
later their mutilated, dissected bodies were found in the kitchen
refrigerator of their home by 2 Houston police officers. 35
years later no arrest has been made in the case. (Excerpts
from "The Ice Box Murders" (c)2000 Hugh E. Gardenier, III and
Martha Leonard Hughes)
Kari & Associates
PO Box 7126
Olympia, WA 98507
Copyright Kari Sable Burns 1994-2006 |
Kill
Grandma for Me James
Defelice -- December, 1994, Wendy Gardner, 13, convinced
James Evans, 15, her lover, to strangle her grandmother.
Wendy took her little sister, stole her grandmother's
money, and went on a three-day orgy. One of the most
bizarre killings ever committed in New York.
The
Bone Garden by William P.
Wood -- Dorothy Puente ran a boardinghouse in Sacramento
and murdered elderly tenants with poison to collect their
Social Security.
Health,
Mind & Body
Magazine
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Legal Memo
The only legal newsletter that focuses exclusively on issues
of concern to not-for-profit long-term care providers. Allows
owners, operators, managers, and attorneys to stay well informed
about various nursing home policies and legislative modifications
that pertain to the nursing home industry.
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